Breaking news: Deo and I are getting married! The trip to Indonesia that we took a few weeks ago was to discuss him and I getting married with my parents. Probably not the most cost effective thing to do but we both glad we took the trip and talked to them in person. And now come the half fun half stressful part of the wedding. Planning it.
If it were up to us, Deo and I would have been married by now without any ceremonies. We would have gone to the city hall and paid €200 and be done with it. Not too romantic I know, but that would have happened if I disregard my mother’s request. We might still throw a mini hey we’re married now party but nothing like a wedding reception at all. But I love my mom to bits and I would want her to have what she wants. So we’re doing the whole shebang in March 2018 in Indonesia.
The things I will mention below might confuse you because Indonesians do wedding quite differently than the west. On average, people invite about 1000 people to their weddings (at least the weddings I attend to and my friends do). You might ask “do you even know 1000 people???”. And I would have answered no, and they probably would to. But in Indonesia, the people who got invited to a wedding is not just close family or the bride and groom’s friends. Both parents’ friends are also invited. Also the extended of their extended families. It’s seen as a ‘gift’ to your parents to throw a party before you leave their house.
And since what I want is a complete opposite to what the norm is in Indonesia. My mother and I agreed to meet in the middle. Which means, I can save some money from not planning a regular Indonesian wedding. And here are some ways I plan to save money for my wedding.
Doing it at home
Our wedding will be held at home in Indonesia. My family has done this several times in the past. It’s not the same house, but we got this. My mom’s second wedding as well as my aunt’s wedding were held at our old family house. And I remembered both being more cozy and close as opposed to the weddings I have been to in the past. We do have to rent a tent (a nice event worthy tent) and some chairs. But it’s nothing compared to the bills we have to pay if we were to book a ballroom or some sort.
When my Indonesian friend got married, she sent out 600 invitations (resulting in roughly 1200 guests). She also invited her closest friends through Facebook additionally as well as her immediate family. Which means there were more than 1200 people came to her wedding reception. So when I said limited invitations that means I expect to have up to 100 people in my wedding including my family. It’s still a lot for me, but my parents would like to invite their closest friends so the number of guest can get closer to 100.
Spotify is my DJ
I’m in love love love with Spotify. I’ve been trying to start to curate my own playlists for my wedding. There’s no need to hire a band since my home in Indonesia is not that big. I would much prefer for people to just chat around with a soft music in the background. This way I’m paying only €7.50 for my DJ.
Home cooked meals
Like I have mentioned earlier, my mom’s second and my aunt’s wedding were held at my family home. And for my aunt’s wedding, my other aunt cooked almost all of the meals that were served during the reception. At least most or maybe all of the main dishes. And my aunt who cooks is quite possibly the best cook in the whole world. So I believe we can save some moolah for this wedding when it comes to food without compromising quality.
No liquors/alcoholic beverage
Liquors are expensive. And since this wedding will be a muslim wedding, we won’t be serving any liquor/alcoholic beverage. If none of my coworkers decide to come to this reception, I think not one person will even realize the lack of alcohol in this wedding.
No engagement ring
Since the wedding is still many moons to come, people have been nagging me to get an engagement ring. But I stood my ground to not wanting to have one. Because firstly it’s really not a necessity in my book and secondly I despise the thought of Deo having to spend thousands of euros just for a ring that will be replaced come March. Because I plan to wear my wedding band and my wedding band only. I’m not that into jewellery thus there’s really no reason to spend a ludicrous amount of money on a ring. Shoes? We can talk about it…
There are also other articles that I can save money from such as having my ‘dress’ (I won’t be wearing a dress per se, it’s something traditional-ish) tailor made by my mom’s go to lady. As well as getting our wedding bands made in Indonesia for a fraction of the price from getting them in Europe. I will be updating this space when I can share more detail about what I do end up saving as well as splurging (I’m drooling over a pair of Manolo’s at this minute).