Things I Love About My Wedding

I meant to write up this post in the month of March when it’s exactly a year after my wedding day. But life got in the way or I sabotaged myself time to actually draft and post this post. So here we are, in the end of April 2019. But I still would like to journal about the things that I love about my wedding last year.

Family & Friends

As someone who lives far away from home, which equals to living far away from family & close friends, being with them was one of the things I was looking forward to. All my extended families were present during our reception and my closest friends were all there dressed in uniform.

My mom was extremely excited to arrange this whole ceremony. I was happy that she was able to enjoy every single decision. After everything was done she even daydream about planning another wedding. For whom? I don’t know hahahaha.

My Dress

I wasn’t that bride who stressed over her wedding dress. Which I was so thankful for. I did not want to pay an exorbitant amount of money for a dress that I will use once in my life. Despite the importance of the dress.

The story of how my dress came to life was quite funny actually. My mom and I decided to go for tailor made dress because we can get it cheaper that way. However, my mom doesn’t have my body measurements to give to the tailor so I had to provide her with that. But I have no clue how to even measure myself hahaha. So when I visited a friend in NYC in 2017, my friend, who’s a fashion designer, measured me. What a crazy ride?!

And this is the end result of the dress!

My mom’s friend did the embellishments on the bodice. Since I had about 5 days from the day I arrived in Indonesia to my reception day, we did not have enough time to make some adjustments. So I had to wear two corsets underneath the dress to make it fit!

The Fact That We Got Married

Hahahaha of course the main thing that I love about our wedding is the fact that we got married! Deo is the most beautiful human being on planet earth and I can’t imagine living my life without him.

I woke up every day feeling safe and glad that I have him next to me. It’s so cheesy and you probably feel sick reading this but I don’t write this kind of thing everyday so just bear with this paragraph haha.

Here’s for a lifetime together, D!

How I Plan to Save Money for My Wedding

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Breaking news: Deo and I are getting married! The trip to Indonesia that we took a few weeks ago was to discuss him and I getting married with my parents. Probably not the most cost effective thing to do but we both glad we took the trip and talked to them in person. And now come the half fun half stressful part of the wedding. Planning it.

If it were up to us, Deo and I would have been married by now without any ceremonies. We would have gone to the city hall and paid €200 and be done with it. Not too romantic I know, but that would have happened if I disregard my mother’s request. We might still throw a mini hey we’re married now party but nothing like a wedding reception at all. But I love my mom to bits and I would want her to have what she wants. So we’re doing the whole shebang in March 2018 in Indonesia.

The things I will mention below might confuse you because Indonesians do wedding quite differently than the west. On average, people invite about 1000 people to their weddings (at least the weddings I attend to and my friends do). You might ask “do you even know 1000 people???”. And I would have answered no, and they probably would to. But in Indonesia, the people who got invited to a wedding is not just close family or the bride and groom’s friends. Both parents’ friends are also invited. Also the extended of their extended families. It’s seen as a ‘gift’ to your parents to throw a party before you leave their house.

And since what I want is a complete opposite to what the norm is in Indonesia. My mother and I agreed to meet in the middle. Which means, I can save some money from not planning a regular Indonesian wedding. And here are some ways I plan to save money for my wedding.

Doing it at home

Our wedding will be held at home in Indonesia. My family has done this several times in the past. It’s not the same house, but we got this. My mom’s second wedding as well as my aunt’s wedding were held at our old family house. And I remembered both being more cozy and close as opposed to the weddings I have been to in the past. We do have to rent a tent (a nice event worthy tent) and some chairs. But it’s nothing compared to the bills we have to pay if we were to book a ballroom or some sort.

Limited invitations

When my Indonesian friend got married, she sent out 600 invitations (resulting in roughly 1200 guests). She also invited her closest friends through Facebook additionally as well as her immediate family. Which means there were more than 1200 people came to her wedding reception. So when I said limited invitations that means I expect to have up to 100 people in my wedding including my family. It’s still a lot for me, but my parents would like to invite their closest friends so the number of guest can get closer to 100.

Spotify is my DJ

I’m in love love love with Spotify. I’ve been trying to start to curate my own playlists for my wedding. There’s no need to hire a band since my home in Indonesia is not that big. I would much prefer for people to just chat around with a soft music in the background. This way I’m paying only €7.50 for my DJ.

Home cooked meals

Like I have mentioned earlier, my mom’s second and my aunt’s wedding were held at my family home. And for my aunt’s wedding, my other aunt cooked almost all of the meals that were served during the reception. At least most or maybe all of the main dishes. And my aunt who cooks is quite possibly the best cook in the whole world. So I believe we can save some moolah for this wedding when it comes to food without compromising quality.

No liquors/alcoholic beverage

Liquors are expensive. And since this wedding will be a muslim wedding, we won’t be serving any liquor/alcoholic beverage. If none of my coworkers decide to come to this reception, I think not one person will even realize the lack of alcohol in this wedding.

No engagement ring

Since the wedding is still many moons to come, people have been nagging me to get an engagement ring. But I stood my ground to not wanting to have one. Because firstly it’s really not a necessity in my book and secondly I despise the thought of Deo having to spend thousands of euros just for a ring that will be replaced come March. Because I plan to wear my wedding band and my wedding band only. I’m not that into jewellery thus there’s really no reason to spend a ludicrous amount of money on a ring. Shoes? We can talk about it…

There are also other articles that I can save money from such as having my ‘dress’ (I won’t be wearing a dress per se, it’s something traditional-ish) tailor made by my mom’s go to lady. As well as getting our wedding bands made in Indonesia for a fraction of the price from getting them in Europe. I will be updating this space when I can share more detail about what I do end up saving as well as splurging (I’m drooling over a pair of Manolo’s at this minute).

One Day in Paris

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Last weekend, Deo and I impulsively decided to go to Paris for the whole Saturday. We took the bus at 1:00 AM on Saturday and come back to Eindhoven at 10:00 PM the same day. We had only one goal to go to Paris; eat ramen! Which we ended up obviously did. I am still regretting not getting seconds for both our trips to Ippudo (we went for lunch and dinner, I could have downed four bowls of ramen!).

If you noticed, the second picture on the first row is really really dark. It’s because we arrived really really early. Around 6:30 AM actually. We were pretty much zombies when we arrived. But the day turned up very nicely and we made the most of the day with sightseeing and eating ramen!

I’m very happy that we did do this spontaneous trip because 2017 is the year of being spontaneous!

Notes on Autumn 2016

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– Why are you so cold? One day it still felt like Summer and then bam you changed 180 degrees. The only thing that keeps me warm is my Zara parka that I bought last year to combat the Winter temperature. Little did I know, it would come in handy when Autumn is starting to act like Winter.

– I officially become a home (apartment) owner. It has been the biggest milestone in my 23 years of existence. Didn’t know that this will happen so soon. The process on buying the apartment was so smooth but now that I have moved in, the organizing part has begun. I still feel like I’m living in a dumpster because the kitchen is still under renovation and soon the bathroom will too. So I have to make a makeshift kitchen in the living room which is not ideal at all. Oh, did I mention that I still don’t have a fridge nor a washing machine?

– Online shopping has been the death of my credit card. And I’m not talking just about clothes or other frivolous things like that, I made those purchases too. But I plan on returning 95% of them since nothing feels fit 100% on me. But I also have been making purchases for a new stove, tiles, a dining table, chairs, et cetera. This home buying thing is a big deal guys.

– Still on the topic of moving, I have been seeing my friends a lot more than usual. I asked them a couple of times to help with the move and they gladly did. Also a friend of mine is having her birthday party soon so another reason to see her and the others. Also there’s something going on now in Eindhoven which is called Eindhoven Glow. It’s a yearly event that lasts for a little bit more than a week. It’s a light festival that spans around 3,5 km around the city. This year is the 11th year they’ve been doing this!

– My boyfriend’s birthday is also coming up and we’re going to Rome to celebrate! I’m quite excited to have a holiday out of the country with him since my last trip was a work trip and it’s been yonks since we escaped The Netherlands. We will be there from the 28th until the 30th of November. I planned to stay in Rome on 29th of November because I want him to wake up on his birthday in Rome! Unfortunately November is the rainiest month of the year in Rome, but since living in Thee Netherlands for 5+ years, rain has got nothing on me!