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How I Plan to Save Money for My Wedding

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Breaking news: Deo and I are getting married! The trip to Indonesia that we took a few weeks ago was to discuss him and I getting married with my parents. Probably not the most cost effective thing to do but we both glad we took the trip and talked to them in person. And now come the half fun half stressful part of the wedding. Planning it.

If it were up to us, Deo and I would have been married by now without any ceremonies. We would have gone to the city hall and paid €200 and be done with it. Not too romantic I know, but that would have happened if I disregard my mother’s request. We might still throw a mini hey we’re married now party but nothing like a wedding reception at all. But I love my mom to bits and I would want her to have what she wants. So we’re doing the whole shebang in March 2018 in Indonesia.

The things I will mention below might confuse you because Indonesians do wedding quite differently than the west. On average, people invite about 1000 people to their weddings (at least the weddings I attend to and my friends do). You might ask “do you even know 1000 people???”. And I would have answered no, and they probably would to. But in Indonesia, the people who got invited to a wedding is not just close family or the bride and groom’s friends. Both parents’ friends are also invited. Also the extended of their extended families. It’s seen as a ‘gift’ to your parents to throw a party before you leave their house.

And since what I want is a complete opposite to what the norm is in Indonesia. My mother and I agreed to meet in the middle. Which means, I can save some money from not planning a regular Indonesian wedding. And here are some ways I plan to save money for my wedding.

1. Doing it at home

Our wedding will be held at home in Indonesia. My family has done this several times in the past. It’s not the same house, but we got this. My mom’s second wedding as well as my aunt’s wedding were held at our old family house. And I remembered both being more cozy and close as opposed to the weddings I have been to in the past. We do have to rent a tent (a nice event worthy tent) and some chairs. But it’s nothing compared to the bills we have to pay if we were to book a ballroom or some sort.

2. Limited invitations

When my Indonesian friend got married, she sent out 600 invitations (resulting in roughly 1200 guests). She also invited her closest friends through Facebook additionally as well as her immediate family. Which means there were more than 1200 people came to her wedding reception. So when I said limited invitations that means I expect to have up to 100 people in my wedding including my family. It’s still a lot for me, but my parents would like to invite their closest friends so the number of guest can get closer to 100.

3. Spotify is my DJ

I’m in love love love with Spotify. I’ve been trying to start to curate my own playlists for my wedding. There’s no need to hire a band since my home in Indonesia is not that big. I would much prefer for people to just chat around with a soft music in the background. This way I’m paying only €7.50 for my DJ.

4. Home cooked meals

Like I have mentioned earlier, my mom’s second and my aunt’s wedding were held at my family home. And for my aunt’s wedding, my other aunt cooked almost all of the meals that were served during the reception. At least most or maybe all of the main dishes. And my aunt who cooks is quite possibly the best cook in the whole world. So I believe we can save some moolah for this wedding when it comes to food without compromising quality.

5. No liquors/alcoholic beverage

Liquors are expensive. And since this wedding will be a muslim wedding, we won’t be serving any liquor/alcoholic beverage. If none of my coworkers decide to come to this reception, I think not one person will even realize the lack of alcohol in this wedding.

6. No engagement ring

Since the wedding is still many moons to come, people have been nagging me to get an engagement ring. But I stood my ground to not wanting to have one. Because firstly it’s really not a necessity in my book and secondly I despise the thought of Deo having to spend thousands of euros just for a ring that will be replaced come March. Because I plan to wear my wedding band and my wedding band only. I’m not that into jewellery thus there’s really no reason to spend a ludicrous amount of money on a ring. Shoes? We can talk about it…

There are also other articles that I can save money from such as having my ‘dress’ (I won’t be wearing a dress per se, it’s something traditional-ish) tailor made by my mom’s go to lady. As well as getting our wedding bands made in Indonesia for a fraction of the price from getting them in Europe. I will be updating this space when I can share more detail about what I do end up saving as well as splurging (I’m drooling over a pair of Manolo’s at this minute).

Style Rut

This is probably the 1000th time I try to downsize my wardrobe. I do indeed have less clothes than before. Which I finally find out, not enough. After the 1000th time, I finally figure out that I’m in a style rut. I have been dressing the same since I was 12. Which isn’t a bad thing per se.

I have been reusing the same formula over and over again. Shirt/t-shirt/sweater, skinny jeans, ankle boots/sneakers. The formula has been proven to be working well for me. I bike daily to work so wearing tight skirt is impractical. Also have you ever tried biking with stilettos??? Oh maybe I need to mention that my bike is a fixie bike so it adds about 20% of overall discomfort.

I’m guessing the core problem of why I feel discontent to what I have in my closet is the fact that I’m still holding onto pieces that are… dingy. I still have my very first long sleeve t-shirt from ZARA. And the surface of that t-shirt that has no pills is much smaller than the one that has. Also some striped t-shirts that are lackluster. But it’s very difficult for me to part with those items because I still do wear them on a daily basis. Despite not feeling 100 whenever I put them on. But they do play a big role on my everyday dressing.

So what I’m currently trying to do is to keep the clothes that don’t spark joy (omg, I’m sorry for using that phrase) in a suitcase and never open for about a month or two or three. If I can figure out enough outfits with what I currently hang in my rack then I’m going to ‘dispose’ the content of that suitcase (don’t worry, by dispose I don’t mean just throwing them into the garbage bin).

We shall see how this goes, right now my closet is quite bare but the pieces there are the ones that I’m very much in love with. Also I just noticed, how come do I have more jackets than blouses????

One Day in Paris

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Last weekend, Deo and I impulsively decided to go to Paris for the whole Saturday. We took the bus at 1:00 AM on Saturday and come back to Eindhoven at 10:00 PM the same day. We had only one goal to go to Paris; eat ramen! Which we ended up obviously did. I am still regretting not getting seconds for both our trips to Ippudo (we went for lunch and dinner, I could have downed four bowls of ramen!).

If you noticed, the second picture on the first row is really really dark. It’s because we arrived really really early. Around 6:30 AM actually. We were pretty much zombies when we arrived. But the day turned up very nicely and we made the most of the day with sightseeing and eating ramen!

I’m very happy that we did do this spontaneous trip because 2017 is the year of being spontaneous!

What I Wore #1

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Monday – H&M blouse | MUJI jeans | Isabel Marant Dicker boots | ZARA parka | Acne Canada scarf | Proenza Schouler PS1 medium bag

I was seriously considering to wear my LK Bennett pumps today. But since I had to walk from home and not really wanting to wear different shoes for commuting, I decided to just wear my Dicker boots instead. And since it was snowing in the weekend, I bundled up in my parka instead of regular coat.

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Tuesday – GRANA crew neck cashmere sweater | MUJI jeans | 5th Avenue Chelsea boots | ZARA wrap coat | North Face Borealis backpack

Today I planned to play football with my colleagues, so I had to switch my Proenza Schouler bag to my backpack to carry all my football gear. By the way I just noticed that these MUJI jeans I have hold their shape pretty well. Usually after wear my skinny jeans get a little bit saggy so I have to wait for a day to re-wear them but this pair is just as tight as when they were freshly washed!

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Wednesday – Selected Femme t-shirt | Primark utility jacket | MUJI jeans | LK Bennett Floret pumps | Acne Canada scarf | Proenza Schouler PS1 medium bag

Today wasn’t a good day for me at all. My heel got stuck into the gap between the wood floor outside my office and my shoe came off of my feet. And I woke up super late due to exhaustion from football yesterday. Also work was a bit stressful and they found a mouse at the office! Side note, I have a phobia for rodens and my colleague took a picture of the fucking mouse and shared it on office wide Slack channel. What the actual fuck.

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Thursday – H&M blouse | GRANA crew neck cashmere sweater | G-Star RAW jeans | ZARA parka | Acne Canada scarf | Nike sneakers | Celine Trio bag

I planned to meet a friend after work today and was planning to dress a little bit nicer. But when I checked the weather forecast, I had to change my nicer coat to a parka and my ballet flats to a pair of sneakers. And omg this pair of jeans from G-Star is super duper comfortable but I should have ordered one/two sizes down. I’m just not sure if they come in my perfect size. They were heavily discounted though. From 120 to 40-ish I think. I might be able to alter them.

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Friday – Selected Femme t-shirt | CK Jeans cardigan | G-Star RAW jeans | ZARA wrap coat | Dr.Martens boots | Acne Canada scarf | Celine Trio

It was supposed to be snowing heavily on Friday, hence me busting out the Dr.Martens boots. But nothing really sticks to the ground. Which was kind of disappointing. Talking about Dr.Martens, I have this pair of boots for about three or four years and somehow they’re not broken it yet?! What am I doing wrong here? Aren’t they supposed to be the comfiest boots on earth?